Kate says:
I hate movies who have that perfect scene where one of the main characters completely spills their guts to the other and it just so happens that they're soul mates and so everything works out great. I don't know of ANYONE who has had this happen to them before. The thing is, when we put our hearts on the line, we have no freaking idea what's going to happen- which is why it is so freaking scary. We picture it happening over and over in our heads, but we picture it the way we want it to happen. Unfortunately, what we don't consider, is the pain we feel when things don't work out. Girl's are taught over and over to trust our instincts because they are always right. Although this can help us avoid rape or a fishy salesman, it can get us in trouble when we try to take matters of the heart into our own hands. Because prior knowledge tells us our gut is right, we assume that we are in love. And if we're in love, the boys must be in love. Until guys are married, love is the last thing on their mind. They see this as a "holy shit lets gtfo..." and completely leave you in the dust. When this happens, it's hard to tell what hurts more: being rejected, or knowing every thought and dream was never going to happen.
Brittany says:
Unfortunately, this has happened to me. I had told a guy that I was committed to him and I was emotionally attached to him. And he said he felt the same way. I felt like I was in love and this could possibly have been it for me. At that time I never thought I would have been second guessing my actions/words. He was a swift kinda guy, and if he reads this.. I'm sure he would agree. The VERY NEXT DAY, he decided to break it off with me.. even though he had said "You have all of my Brittany, I'm closer to you than I have ever been with anyone else." But in the end... HE DUMPED ME. what the hell? I was all sorts of confused... I feel like most guys don't have a backbone.. and those who don't have a backbone can break up with girls through texting (which shows just how mature you are). If he was as close with me as he said he was, why not just tell me what you really felt? Instead of telling me what i wanted to hear?! The situation itself still makes me angry and that happened about 9 months ago? Im not sure what it is about guys that act all tough, but when it comes down to it they're just little girls on the inside. Everyone should be able to talk about their feelings and if you can't you're probably not as close are you thought you were. But the douche i was dating.. Walked away.. he didn't talk to me about it, he didn't try to explain anything to me. Just walked away, quit talking to me, and those three years... were all for nothing.. So that kinda guy... is the kind i hate.
To the boy who: knows the exact moment you open your hear to them... because you know its the perfect moment to walk away: it's the perfect opportunity to man up.
How to Deal: don't stop believing in yourself. You have to understand that these feelings you have for someone who has done this to you will return, even stronger, for someone else who has been waiting for someone just like you. The best thing is to just move on. Either the guy will realize you can provide exactly what he wants in life, or you'll realize he's exactly what you don't.
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