Kate says:
I hate movies who have that perfect scene where one of the main characters completely spills their guts to the other and it just so happens that they're soul mates and so everything works out great. I don't know of ANYONE who has had this happen to them before. The thing is, when we put our hearts on the line, we have no freaking idea what's going to happen- which is why it is so freaking scary. We picture it happening over and over in our heads, but we picture it the way we want it to happen. Unfortunately, what we don't consider, is the pain we feel when things don't work out. Girl's are taught over and over to trust our instincts because they are always right. Although this can help us avoid rape or a fishy salesman, it can get us in trouble when we try to take matters of the heart into our own hands. Because prior knowledge tells us our gut is right, we assume that we are in love. And if we're in love, the boys must be in love. Until guys are married, love is the last thing on their mind. They see this as a "holy shit lets gtfo..." and completely leave you in the dust. When this happens, it's hard to tell what hurts more: being rejected, or knowing every thought and dream was never going to happen.
Brittany says:
Unfortunately, this has happened to me. I had told a guy that I was committed to him and I was emotionally attached to him. And he said he felt the same way. I felt like I was in love and this could possibly have been it for me. At that time I never thought I would have been second guessing my actions/words. He was a swift kinda guy, and if he reads this.. I'm sure he would agree. The VERY NEXT DAY, he decided to break it off with me.. even though he had said "You have all of my Brittany, I'm closer to you than I have ever been with anyone else." But in the end... HE DUMPED ME. what the hell? I was all sorts of confused... I feel like most guys don't have a backbone.. and those who don't have a backbone can break up with girls through texting (which shows just how mature you are). If he was as close with me as he said he was, why not just tell me what you really felt? Instead of telling me what i wanted to hear?! The situation itself still makes me angry and that happened about 9 months ago? Im not sure what it is about guys that act all tough, but when it comes down to it they're just little girls on the inside. Everyone should be able to talk about their feelings and if you can't you're probably not as close are you thought you were. But the douche i was dating.. Walked away.. he didn't talk to me about it, he didn't try to explain anything to me. Just walked away, quit talking to me, and those three years... were all for nothing.. So that kinda guy... is the kind i hate.
To the boy who: knows the exact moment you open your hear to them... because you know its the perfect moment to walk away: it's the perfect opportunity to man up.
How to Deal: don't stop believing in yourself. You have to understand that these feelings you have for someone who has done this to you will return, even stronger, for someone else who has been waiting for someone just like you. The best thing is to just move on. Either the guy will realize you can provide exactly what he wants in life, or you'll realize he's exactly what you don't.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Monday, May 9, 2011
I hate boys who: tell you they love you, but they aren't in love with you.
Kate says:
Really? Whoever thought of this phrase is a genius, but unfortunately, still deserves to be shot. I understand if you're turning DOWN someone, not breaking UP with someone. When you break up with someone, you should have enough respect for them to be honest and tell them the real reason why you're letting them go. This pretty much says "I care about you, but not enough to be with you. But we can totally still bang on the side." Its perfect for guys because it makes them seem like they have feelings for something other than your vagina. Really guys, MAN UP. You've been with this girl for sometime. You know her well enough to know how she takes bad news. Granted, a girl with a broken heart can be more dangerous than a stampede of elephants on crack, but if you're honest with her, I promise you in the long run she will cut you some slack.
Brittany says:
Ohhh, this is my favorite line. Probably because it was used on me. haha. Let me just set the stage, this was my boyfriend who used the line on me at the time... And it made me really question his emotional maturity. He had been telling me he loved me pretty quick, and like i had said in past posts we were together for awhile. He used this line as a get out key. And it worked, because it was bullshit and I wasn't about to deal with it, or cry over it. He wasn't worth the tears I had given him before.. Guys who use this line are pretty much just looking for a good way out. Each of us wants to know we are loved, and we hope that when they say it they mean it. Bottom line, if a guy uses this line of you, run as fast as you can in the other direction because hes a sorry excuse for a man, and doesn't know how to break up with you nicely.
To the boys who: tells you they love you, but they aren't in love with you: don't ever try to pull this line off because you obviously don't have a heart.
How to Deal: If a guy uses this line on you, drop him. If a guy friend is telling you this, it might actually be true. But if a boyfriend is dumping you, RUN. Later on, he'll just use the fact that he "loves you" as an excuse to get into your pants because he still "cares for you" just not enough to be with you anymore. It's a perfect lead up for more sex as well as an easy escape from a relationship. Don't fall victim to the double whammy of holding on to feelings for your ex and sleeping with the guy who dumped you.
Really? Whoever thought of this phrase is a genius, but unfortunately, still deserves to be shot. I understand if you're turning DOWN someone, not breaking UP with someone. When you break up with someone, you should have enough respect for them to be honest and tell them the real reason why you're letting them go. This pretty much says "I care about you, but not enough to be with you. But we can totally still bang on the side." Its perfect for guys because it makes them seem like they have feelings for something other than your vagina. Really guys, MAN UP. You've been with this girl for sometime. You know her well enough to know how she takes bad news. Granted, a girl with a broken heart can be more dangerous than a stampede of elephants on crack, but if you're honest with her, I promise you in the long run she will cut you some slack.
Brittany says:
Ohhh, this is my favorite line. Probably because it was used on me. haha. Let me just set the stage, this was my boyfriend who used the line on me at the time... And it made me really question his emotional maturity. He had been telling me he loved me pretty quick, and like i had said in past posts we were together for awhile. He used this line as a get out key. And it worked, because it was bullshit and I wasn't about to deal with it, or cry over it. He wasn't worth the tears I had given him before.. Guys who use this line are pretty much just looking for a good way out. Each of us wants to know we are loved, and we hope that when they say it they mean it. Bottom line, if a guy uses this line of you, run as fast as you can in the other direction because hes a sorry excuse for a man, and doesn't know how to break up with you nicely.
To the boys who: tells you they love you, but they aren't in love with you: don't ever try to pull this line off because you obviously don't have a heart.
How to Deal: If a guy uses this line on you, drop him. If a guy friend is telling you this, it might actually be true. But if a boyfriend is dumping you, RUN. Later on, he'll just use the fact that he "loves you" as an excuse to get into your pants because he still "cares for you" just not enough to be with you anymore. It's a perfect lead up for more sex as well as an easy escape from a relationship. Don't fall victim to the double whammy of holding on to feelings for your ex and sleeping with the guy who dumped you.
Sunday, May 8, 2011
I hate boys who: sleep with a different girl every night, and then refers to them as sluts.
Guy: You wanna go upstairs?
Girl: Yeah, that sounds like fun.
Guy: Then just follow me to heaven.
Guys friend: Hey, you wanna play beer pong?
Guy: Nah man, I'm totally about to bang this slut.
Guy's friend: AH! No way, man! That's like the fifth one this week!
Kate says:
I am going to start this post with a little resource called the dictionary. According to UrbanDictionary.com, a popular website among my generation, the definition of slut is "a woman with the morals of a man." I am not making this up. That definition earned the most votes by my peers as the best definition of slut. So let's stop for a second and think about this statement. A slut is a girl who has the same rules of sexual conduct as a guy. Notice how "guy" is not specified. It doesn't say pimp, or frat boy, or even a man whore. It just says guy. And this ladies and gentlemen is how we as a generation have defined our "neighborhood bicycles." As much as I hope this evidence is enough to make guys realize their hypocrisy, I know there are guys out there thinking this statement is absolutely true, and there is nothing wrong with it. Guys want girls to act like them because it makes guys easier to get laid. What guys forget is that we want sex JUST as much as they do, if not more for some of us. Maybe next time, instead of thinking of the girl as a slut, think of her as a guy. A guy just like you who went to this party, who picked you out, who waited for you to approach her, and knew from the moment she decided she was going to go out tonight that all she wanted was to get laid. Just like you. Which makes you just as much of a slut as her.
Brittany says:
This particular thing drives me crazy, though I have never been considered a "slut," at least by my knowledge. What is so frustrating about this is that boys like to play games. Yes, girls do too, but I know for a fact that boys play the game...to see how long it will take for them to get a girl to drop her panties. Until she does, it's all fun and games for them. But once she gives into the boys temptation, they seem to label her differently. Which I find very hard to understand. Here's the difference: guys can do the same thing, sleep with tons of different girls but it all adds to make them seem so much more attractive and gives them "game" when really- they are EXACTLY THE SAME as the girls who choose to do that. She just gets a different name than the guy. It's ridiculous that boys aren't held to the same expectations as girls are. And yes, I use the term boy because NO MAN would ever be so immature to stoop to this level. And any Man who does should really take a look at himself and see if MAN is the correct term to be using. I think boys think of themselves are superior to girls, when in the end, they are just like girls on most levels. They need to get their heads out of their asses and realize that sleeping with a girl who they showed affection for.. means they had some sort of feeling toward her, and she doesn't deserve the title of a slut when he's doing the exact same thing too.
To the boy who: sleeps with a different girl every night, and then refers to her as a slut: she's using you just as much as you're using her. And if she isn't, then you're taking advantage of a girl's hope in finding someone who truly does care about her.
How to Deal: If a boy calls you a slut for having sex with him, it just shows how little self esteem he has. Obviously if he has to resort to sleeping with sluts every week, he doesn't have too much game with the classy ladies. Guys use us girls as pawns in their silly little games they play with each other in order to measure their manliness. Unfortunately, until they learn that manliness is measured in a totally different way, they will never be anything but boys comparing penises on the playground.
Girl: Yeah, that sounds like fun.
Guy: Then just follow me to heaven.
Guys friend: Hey, you wanna play beer pong?
Guy: Nah man, I'm totally about to bang this slut.
Guy's friend: AH! No way, man! That's like the fifth one this week!
Kate says:
I am going to start this post with a little resource called the dictionary. According to UrbanDictionary.com, a popular website among my generation, the definition of slut is "a woman with the morals of a man." I am not making this up. That definition earned the most votes by my peers as the best definition of slut. So let's stop for a second and think about this statement. A slut is a girl who has the same rules of sexual conduct as a guy. Notice how "guy" is not specified. It doesn't say pimp, or frat boy, or even a man whore. It just says guy. And this ladies and gentlemen is how we as a generation have defined our "neighborhood bicycles." As much as I hope this evidence is enough to make guys realize their hypocrisy, I know there are guys out there thinking this statement is absolutely true, and there is nothing wrong with it. Guys want girls to act like them because it makes guys easier to get laid. What guys forget is that we want sex JUST as much as they do, if not more for some of us. Maybe next time, instead of thinking of the girl as a slut, think of her as a guy. A guy just like you who went to this party, who picked you out, who waited for you to approach her, and knew from the moment she decided she was going to go out tonight that all she wanted was to get laid. Just like you. Which makes you just as much of a slut as her.
Brittany says:
This particular thing drives me crazy, though I have never been considered a "slut," at least by my knowledge. What is so frustrating about this is that boys like to play games. Yes, girls do too, but I know for a fact that boys play the game...to see how long it will take for them to get a girl to drop her panties. Until she does, it's all fun and games for them. But once she gives into the boys temptation, they seem to label her differently. Which I find very hard to understand. Here's the difference: guys can do the same thing, sleep with tons of different girls but it all adds to make them seem so much more attractive and gives them "game" when really- they are EXACTLY THE SAME as the girls who choose to do that. She just gets a different name than the guy. It's ridiculous that boys aren't held to the same expectations as girls are. And yes, I use the term boy because NO MAN would ever be so immature to stoop to this level. And any Man who does should really take a look at himself and see if MAN is the correct term to be using. I think boys think of themselves are superior to girls, when in the end, they are just like girls on most levels. They need to get their heads out of their asses and realize that sleeping with a girl who they showed affection for.. means they had some sort of feeling toward her, and she doesn't deserve the title of a slut when he's doing the exact same thing too.
To the boy who: sleeps with a different girl every night, and then refers to her as a slut: she's using you just as much as you're using her. And if she isn't, then you're taking advantage of a girl's hope in finding someone who truly does care about her.
How to Deal: If a boy calls you a slut for having sex with him, it just shows how little self esteem he has. Obviously if he has to resort to sleeping with sluts every week, he doesn't have too much game with the classy ladies. Guys use us girls as pawns in their silly little games they play with each other in order to measure their manliness. Unfortunately, until they learn that manliness is measured in a totally different way, they will never be anything but boys comparing penises on the playground.
Sunday, January 16, 2011
I hate boys who: text me at 3 in the morning wanting to "hang out"
Boy: Hey! Want to come over?
Me: It's three in the morning.....?
Boy: Yea, so? You're not sleeping are you?
Me: I kinda am.
Boy: I'll make it worth the hassle ;-)
Kate says:
First off, what functioning human being is not asleep by three in the morning? 9 year olds at a slumber party trying to beat their previous record of staying up late, drunks still hanging around the bars looking for one that's open, and newlyweds still going at it are not the people I want to be hanging out with at that hour of the night. Unless you find those kinds of people entertaining, you should be asleep. Aside from that point, in order for me to hang out, I would have to crawl out of bed, wash my face 100 times to get the sleepiness out of my eyes, put on make up, fix my hair, brush my teeth - because God knows I'll have morning breath by then - and change/put on clothes. Hell no am I putting forth that much effort or giving you that much faith that it will be worth it. If your skills are so glorious, I'll wait until I've gotten a good night of sleep so I have full energy for you. If you have a problem you need to sort out, talk with your best friend (stay tuned for "I hate boys who: talk about they're girl problems while trying to get in my pants"). If I'm your best friend, that's sad because you're not mine. How do I know? Because my best friend is either sleeping on the floor next to me, still playing beer pong in my dining room, or a sensible human being who knows for a fact that I hate being woken up from a night of sleep.
Brittany says: There is no way in hell I would get out of bed at 3AM. There is no boy in the world that is that important to make me get out of my comfy bed, put myself together and then drive to your place. If you really need to contact me, or expect a response he should try texting me in the morning, because I promise getting any text like that doesn't need a response at the time or let alone any other time. Point is, the boy looks desperate trying to get you like that in the middle of the night. And the girl would look equally as desperate. And nobody wants to ever look desperate.
In short:
Boy who texts me at 3 in the morning wanting to "hang out": You aren't that important at three in the morning. In fact, you just aren't that important period.
How to deal:
Don't go meet him. Unless your just waking up from a sex dream and need a fix, he is so not worth it. He's only coming to you because he got rejected from the first 20 girls he texted that day, or hour depending on how desperate he is. Tell him to use his hand. Or don't text him at all. Either way, when the sun comes up, you'll be too tired and irritable to go for the guy that really matters: Captain Crunch.
Me: It's three in the morning.....?
Boy: Yea, so? You're not sleeping are you?
Me: I kinda am.
Boy: I'll make it worth the hassle ;-)
Kate says:
First off, what functioning human being is not asleep by three in the morning? 9 year olds at a slumber party trying to beat their previous record of staying up late, drunks still hanging around the bars looking for one that's open, and newlyweds still going at it are not the people I want to be hanging out with at that hour of the night. Unless you find those kinds of people entertaining, you should be asleep. Aside from that point, in order for me to hang out, I would have to crawl out of bed, wash my face 100 times to get the sleepiness out of my eyes, put on make up, fix my hair, brush my teeth - because God knows I'll have morning breath by then - and change/put on clothes. Hell no am I putting forth that much effort or giving you that much faith that it will be worth it. If your skills are so glorious, I'll wait until I've gotten a good night of sleep so I have full energy for you. If you have a problem you need to sort out, talk with your best friend (stay tuned for "I hate boys who: talk about they're girl problems while trying to get in my pants"). If I'm your best friend, that's sad because you're not mine. How do I know? Because my best friend is either sleeping on the floor next to me, still playing beer pong in my dining room, or a sensible human being who knows for a fact that I hate being woken up from a night of sleep.
Brittany says: There is no way in hell I would get out of bed at 3AM. There is no boy in the world that is that important to make me get out of my comfy bed, put myself together and then drive to your place. If you really need to contact me, or expect a response he should try texting me in the morning, because I promise getting any text like that doesn't need a response at the time or let alone any other time. Point is, the boy looks desperate trying to get you like that in the middle of the night. And the girl would look equally as desperate. And nobody wants to ever look desperate.
In short:
Boy who texts me at 3 in the morning wanting to "hang out": You aren't that important at three in the morning. In fact, you just aren't that important period.
How to deal:
Don't go meet him. Unless your just waking up from a sex dream and need a fix, he is so not worth it. He's only coming to you because he got rejected from the first 20 girls he texted that day, or hour depending on how desperate he is. Tell him to use his hand. Or don't text him at all. Either way, when the sun comes up, you'll be too tired and irritable to go for the guy that really matters: Captain Crunch.
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